Overcoming Fear

Everyone in the world aims to be successful. You, me, even the one who has all the possible chances to lose, will have the urge to win. To be successful or to win something, material preparation towards it is very important. But along with that we need mental preparation too. We should make up our mind for every situation. Self-confidence is the first and foremost thing we need to foster. Just think, if we do not believe in ourselves how others would.? So believe in yourself and in your strength. Never lose hope even at the last second. Strive for success till the end. The most common reason for losing self-confidence is FEAR. The most dangerous feeling that leads us to failure. Fear can be classified into three types--

1) Fear of being a failure

2) Fear of breaking hopes or responsibilities

3) Fear of tougher competition

The first one is very common for the people who had never been failure in their life. These people worry that their fame and name will be spoiled if they fail. The second category people don’t care about being failure or loosing something but worry that they might disappoint others. These people have more stress on them in the name of hopes. The third category will have no stress and will be confident about their strength, but on the other hand will be more confident about opponent’s strength. They think that the opponent is stronger than them.

If you observe the reasons of fear in all the three cases, there is no fear in us from the beginning. Its derived from the surroundings or from the negative thoughts. If we don't have that stress or negative encounters we'll be full with confidence in the run for success.

The best way to overcome the first kind of fear is to understand that success and failure are only parts of life and we should welcome both. There is no need to feel shy for being a failure. Without tasting bitter how can we enjoy sweetness? It will be painful to be a failure. But we should turn the power of pain in a positive way to grow in life. Leave about fame, respect, Just aim at your target and struggle for it.

People with second kind of fear will have heavy stress on them. Like a student being stressed from parents.

They work hard and struggle to become successful for others or to keep up hopes of others but will be defeated by fear. If they win others enjoy his success than him. The first thing to understand is, why work for others.? Work for yourself. After all it’s your life so do it for you. Work hard, but work for you to be successful. Do not think about others. Have a maturity that it’s you going to be you on the board if you work for it and win. Now you will have no fear of breaking hopes of others. You will win and you will enjoy each and every bit of that.

The third must believe in their energy than others. They must feel that they can defeat him how much ever strong he is. The evergreen example for this are the words by kapil dev "Do not see the person who bowls, see the ball". So watch the combat not the strength of opponent. For students, see the papers not the teacher.

Understand in which kind of fear you are in and start thinking towards it from today. You’ll surely make a way out of it.