Stress Management

We all know that managing stress has become an important element for every working person as the places of work has become much pressurised now a days. Managing stress and works is also an important criterion for a best employee in this corporate world. Stress is a point where work increases than our capacity. The main thing is that how you manage those works and handle them. Once if you come to know that we are going to be under pressure, then you shouldn’t get tensed. You should relax, have a sip of some juice or have a bite and start thinking about how to face the problem.

 First analyse the tasks you have and arrange them according to the urgent-important technique discussed in previous post (Dilemma). Imagine all the works in an order on your mind.

Then count down your days and assign a specific number of days for each work. If you feel uncomfortable to imagine, take a pen and put everything in your mind on the paper.

Don’t ever assign exact time that a task would take. Always allot more time than it require. The reason for this is main key point, if you give exact time that means your bounding yourself to do the work in a limited time. That means stress! The entire plan you had laid to decrease stress ruins here. Splitting the work, assigning more time, working peacefully is the main theme of stress management. This idea would be beautiful if you can work according to the plan. Becoming lazy as the time is more pushes us out of the plan. Make sure you lay a correct plan and work without becoming lazy.

This is how we manage stress in our work. But the doubt whether we can complete the task or not always pricks our mind and makes us tensed. Mental peace in such times is very necessary. Listening to music is the way I prefer the most. Other than this we can get recreation by going to parks, talking to friends, practising yoga. Talking to people older than 60 years and kids younger than 6 years will make us feel happy; this is also a beautiful idea. So we have many ways to manage stress and plan our works. Try it out and you will see how easy it will be to work on stress.

Writer's special

Hey people, this is a small poem by me.  Its my first one. Hope you like it.

                                                     

When he was gone and no more,

She felt she has won the core

Like a road which is dirty and narrow,

Her life was filled with sorrow

Like a bird from a cage she became,

After all the pain she overcame

Like a rain she broke into tears,

Telling about all her fears

But,

There was love in the tears of hatred,

There was love in the words of anger,

There was love in the deeds of fear,

There was love in the weeps of agony,

When she said,

“I miss him…!”

Dilemma

This post will talk about a small topic called dilemma. The post is very simple and small this time.

We get into dilemma sometimes for big reasons and sometimes for small too. Dilemma is simply defined as a state of mind where we do not know what to choose. It’s like standing helplessly on the middle of the road from where it divides into two parts. It is called 'Fork on the road'. Simply, it is standing on the centre of Y,

And not understanding which way to go. Just think, in an exam we like multiple choices than fill in the blanks, because we have options in it. In the same way the situation without dilemma is like a fill in the blank where we don’t have any choice and have to go in the only way that we expect to be true. But in the situation of dilemma we have more options like multiple choices. What do we do when we get a choice? We think about it. We think about the other possible way than what we had thought.  So, dilemma is actually good. It makes us to think about all the possible ways of a situation and choose the best than to follow one blindly.

First we must learn to give priority to the situations when we get into dilemma on the basis of important and urgent. If the situation is important but not urgent it means it should be done but not right now. It must be done but later too. If it is urgent but not important, it is not so particular but should be done right there. Like this we have to rate the situations and then proceed to the next step. For example, let us think we are going to submit an important record at the lab and we got a call that our friend, say Abhijith, had met with an accident. Now what to do? Should we go and assist him or submit the record? Submitting the record is important, but not urgent. We can do it any time. But going to Abhijith is both important and urgent, so skip the lab and go to him first. In this way we can rate any situation and overcome the dilemma. If the dilemma is about choosing something then close your eyes and think what you want. If you want something and you have it in choice don’t think of anything just go for that. Remember one thing, nothing is important than you for yourself. It’s you first and everything else next.

These are the best possible ways to work with dilemma. Try, they’ll surely work. So never worry about dilemma, dilemma is actually good.

Turning pain to power

The title itself appears strange about turning pain to power. Pain in the sense is not suffering. It means psychological pain or mental stress. Why do we have to undergo such pain or stress..?

Pain can be merely explained as a feeling which we get when something odd happens. The further reasons of one’s individual pain depends on his/her personal life or problems. For example a student’s problem could be about his studies. For a working person it differs. Whatever the reason is pain leads to only one point,   'Depression'. We get depressed for very small reason almost every day, sometimes we express it and sometimes we don’t. So let us now classify pain in levels. The pain due to very small incidents we face every day is of first level. It has an impact of few hours or might be a day.

The incidents that penetrate in to our minds like losing someone close to us or being insulted by someone may be in the office or in class, these kind of incidents give us pain which pricks our heart every day which is of second level. This kind of pain can be very powerful weapon in our hands. If we can think why we had faced such a situation and strive to avoid it next time, we can be a champ. For example, if our teacher scolds for not doing a project properly, it gives us pain. If we are able to use that pain as a weapon to take revenge on the situation and work hard on it, we’ll have a beautiful project in our hands. This idea works for all other level two painful situations.

The third level of pain happens only with very sensitive or weak hearted people. The reason of pain might be very small for a normal person but for them, it means a lot. They get depressed in a very bad way living out from the world leaving everything. This is the same situation of a person who commits suicide. They get depressed so much thinking that quitting their lives would be much better than to feel that pain. But this is not at all correct. Quitting from our life means to give up, being a coward to face the situations. Remember, always we should handle the situations, don’t let the situations handle us. We don’t know how the life changes. Spring comes only after winter. So fight till the end to win the final battle. Longer the struggle, greater the victory! Change the pain to live, to fight! Fight using the pain. That’s the ultimate power! That’s the urge to victory!

 There is always a chance within us to turn the pain to anger. That is getting angry on the reason of pain. It is like becoming angry on the teacher for our mistakes in the example we've seen above. Anger also has a very similar impact as the power from pain but in a negative way. This can lead to a very dangerous mental condition. Getting angry on the person who insults us could make us to put the person in trouble. Getting angry on a company could make us leave the company. But we are the final failures for these consequences. It’s we who lose everything in anger. Everybody asks us to count ten when we get angry. For many people this does not sound useful. Counting ten doesn't mean to count ten and then get angry. It means to think for a minute about what we are doing.

The most dangerous anger is the anger on the society or humankind. Becoming angry on all the people will result in losing the respect on human lives. People who don’t have such respect are called ’Terrorists’. These kinds of people don't care for life. Angry pre-matured young minds can be injected such stuff which can turn them into merciless man-eaters. So always be far from anger.

And that’s how converting our pain to a positive power will bloom great flowers in our lives. Try them with your situations and see it by yourself.

                                                                                                                 

                                                                                                                                           -- Harish

Overcoming Fear

Everyone in the world aims to be successful. You, me, even the one who has all the possible chances to lose, will have the urge to win. To be successful or to win something, material preparation towards it is very important. But along with that we need mental preparation too. We should make up our mind for every situation. Self-confidence is the first and foremost thing we need to foster. Just think, if we do not believe in ourselves how others would.? So believe in yourself and in your strength. Never lose hope even at the last second. Strive for success till the end. The most common reason for losing self-confidence is FEAR. The most dangerous feeling that leads us to failure. Fear can be classified into three types--

1) Fear of being a failure

2) Fear of breaking hopes or responsibilities

3) Fear of tougher competition

The first one is very common for the people who had never been failure in their life. These people worry that their fame and name will be spoiled if they fail. The second category people don’t care about being failure or loosing something but worry that they might disappoint others. These people have more stress on them in the name of hopes. The third category will have no stress and will be confident about their strength, but on the other hand will be more confident about opponent’s strength. They think that the opponent is stronger than them.

If you observe the reasons of fear in all the three cases, there is no fear in us from the beginning. Its derived from the surroundings or from the negative thoughts. If we don't have that stress or negative encounters we'll be full with confidence in the run for success.

The best way to overcome the first kind of fear is to understand that success and failure are only parts of life and we should welcome both. There is no need to feel shy for being a failure. Without tasting bitter how can we enjoy sweetness? It will be painful to be a failure. But we should turn the power of pain in a positive way to grow in life. Leave about fame, respect, Just aim at your target and struggle for it.

People with second kind of fear will have heavy stress on them. Like a student being stressed from parents.

They work hard and struggle to become successful for others or to keep up hopes of others but will be defeated by fear. If they win others enjoy his success than him. The first thing to understand is, why work for others.? Work for yourself. After all it’s your life so do it for you. Work hard, but work for you to be successful. Do not think about others. Have a maturity that it’s you going to be you on the board if you work for it and win. Now you will have no fear of breaking hopes of others. You will win and you will enjoy each and every bit of that.

The third must believe in their energy than others. They must feel that they can defeat him how much ever strong he is. The evergreen example for this are the words by kapil dev "Do not see the person who bowls, see the ball". So watch the combat not the strength of opponent. For students, see the papers not the teacher.

Understand in which kind of fear you are in and start thinking towards it from today. You’ll surely make a way out of it.